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THE COSTS OF LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE.

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As we have seen on this blog for many years now there is a great cost to living a double life.

The leading of a double life by seminarians has led to the demise of the Irish College in Rome and the near demise of Maynooth.

We have watched the various characters go “off stage” – Gorgeous, Horny Andy, Chris Derwin, Rory, McCamley, McVeigh, Ger Fitzgerald, etc.

In many of these cases the problem was the breaking if the 11th Commandment: “Thou shalt not be caught”.

That of course means there are many actors out there who have not being caught – YET!

For some of those, their time will come.

Others may succeed in “fooling all of the people all of the time”?

But what a repugnant achievement?

But living a double life is not healthy for anyone.

Apart from all the people and lives you destroy by being a phoney – even if others dont know you are a phoney, the person in the mirror knows – and more importantly God knows.

Knowing you are phoney, and living as a phoney, eats away, whether or not you like it, at your self respect.

And the longer you live as a phoney, the more your moral integrity rots away. In the end you are, as Jesus said, “a whitened sepulchur” – white on the outside and inside full of rottenness and decay.

Living a double life and being a phoney, leads to a very quickly developing cancer of the soul and spirit.

The double life and phoniness is the exact contradiction of who and what God is – the God whose primary quality is ONENESS.

The person living the double life is split – a true schizophrenic. Schizophrenia as a condition is absolutely destructive of the quality of life – the healthy life, the human life, the spiritual life.

Jesus own words address this: “Be ye one as the Father and I are one”.

THE GREAT CHALLENGE OF LIFE

The great challenge of life, for all of us, is the challenge to be an integrated human being.

That most certainly does not mean to be perfect. Far from it.

Being an integrated human being is about being intensely aware of one’s strengths, one’s weaknesses, one’s contradictions and being able, consciously, to hold all these eggs in the one basket and to be stable, enduring and open.

Living an integrated life is a process, a journey.

Many years ago an old nun gave me a poster. The poster showed a little chicken which has just emerged from the cracked shell. The writing on the poster read:

JESUS SETS YOU FREE TO BECOME ALL YOU WERE MEANT TO BE”.

“Lord, save us all from the satanic temptation to be a phoney living a double life. Lord, give us the grace to possess some of the oneness and wholeness of God”.

81 replies on “THE COSTS OF LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE.”

You forgot some characters Pat:
Sean Jones
Aidan Gallagher
Brendan Marshall
Sean Hickey
David Dysky
Aidan O’Brien
Lorcan Kellar
John Harney
James Doyle
Robert McGivney
Henry Balkwill
John Paul Lyttle

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Yo, of course JP, the Power Bottom. Is he still doing ‘special assignments’ for Portsmouth ? Or has he moved on ? Or will he miraculously reappear ? Keep an eye on that one for us, + Pat

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1:47 – You are wrong!
Fr. David Marsden
Francis McLoughlin
Niall Carroll
James Boyle
Daniel Shiels
Warren Thompson Connolly
Conan McGonagle
Declan Hasson
Paul Trehy

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Double life is a strange and damaging experience. Bottom line is that it is soul destroying and a form of invisible cancer. What is the motivation. This is a mighty question worthy of study. If people approach this question properly it could lead back to true cause and a window to a more realistic self image going forward

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Pastors who preach one thing and do another are wounded and harm the church, Pope Francis said. Like the scribes and Pharisees of old, pastors end up leading a double life when they detach themselves from God and his people.
Jesus is clear in this: ‘Do what they say’ — they speak the truth — ‘but not what they do,’” the pope said. “It is awful to see pastors with double lives: it is a wound in the church. However, those who are detached from God and the people are “sick pastors who have lost their authority” and are incapable of preaching salvation to others, Pope Francis said.
Pope Francis also delivered a criticism of some members of the church, suggesting it was better to be an atheist than one of many Catholics who he said lead a hypocritical double life. “It is a scandal to say one thing and do another. That is a double life.”

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HOW-HI FLY

Begorra hi a double life is double trouble.
An altar ego or what.
Each day has enough trouble of its own rather
than twice the amount of trouble for the price of one.
A house divided cannot stand. Built on sand.
Same goes for persons.
A recipe for disaster.
We live in hope…
May The Force Bless us and keep us…+

Bye Bye Fly Hi.

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“Their time will come?” It sounds like you’re preparing readers for another big scandal, Bp Pat. Another gay one, I hope, or a transie one, e.g., Fr X is now a woman.

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The repugnant KOB almost succeeded in “fooling all of the people all of the time.” Loved the cock more than anything in the world. What a bitter and loathsome creature he turned out to be.

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I always think those purple skull caps make bishops looks like knob ends. They love the cock so much they even dress like one.

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11.21: The comnent of a total pervert. Wouldn’t have you anywhere near children or vulnerable people. You are sexually deranged and dangerous.

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7.39
From Edinburgh to Ireland and Father Ger Fitzgerald reminds me of KOB saying one thing and doing the other KOB was a homophobe and a nasty old queen.
Ger is the nasty straight guy allowing his victim to have serious threats towards and intimidation while he said mass. (Ger should get a drama award for that)
The Hero Ger Fitzgerald always in the Clare Champion you know the sleep outs and the mental health issues does he not yet realise the mental torture he has put and is still putting his victim through.
Surely people can now see Ger the hypocrite and they are not that thick in Ennis and Cloughleigh.
The women should be glad he has been found out and they will not be his next victim.
KOB went from Hero to Zero
Ger should also go Hero to Zero.

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I guess that we all have secrets in our lives, and bits of our lives that we like to keep hidden. However, what is described here and what we so regularly see on this blog is of another order completely. Today’s he narrative describes well the consequences for clergy themselves who live duplicitous and double lives, as well as the knock on consequences for those around them. The consequences are damaging, undermining and corrosive. By and large the biggest area of double lives for clergy is that of sex, sexuality and relationships, be those connections heterosexual or homosexual. There could be a partial solution to this if the Church were to rethink its mandatory requirement and imposition of celibacy on clergy, which we know clergy take on without much enthusiasm so that they can be ordained. Such a change would give clergy the opportunity to enjoy a settled life of relationships and sexual activity within the bounds of a committed relationship, for many marriage. In addition, the Church could do itself a favour in revisiting the whole theology of the body and its attitude to sexuality and the use of the human sexual function. Such a new perspective could also open the way for a more balanced understanding and acceptance of alternative sexualities and relationships, which many clergy would benefit from and would allow them to be able to enjoy legitimate and accepted homosexual relationships. In addition, such an innovative and imaginative rethinking of the Church’s attitude to sex and sexuality would remove a festering sore that alienates so many from the Church, and which undermines the Church’s authority and relevance, for we know so many, of all sexualities, simply make up their own minds in conscience as to how they will live their lives and relationships and turn their backs on the Church, which in these matters has become an irrelevance to them. In respect of clergy and the discussion today about duplicity and double lives, while these changes would not remove every area in which clergy live dysfunctionally (such as power, authority, exalted notions of clerical exceptionalism, money, and other criminal tendencies like sexual abuse of the vulnerable and children) it would go a long way to removing an aspect of clerical culture and life which engenders and facilitates lying, double dealing, obfuscation, duplicity, dysfunction and the damaging psychological, emotional, social and behavioural damage that ensues, both to clergy and to the faithful and the Church.

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The pope: “How many times have we all heard people say ‘if that person is a Catholic, it is better to be an atheist’.”
When committed homosexuals see the double standards of some heterosexuals, they might ask the pope; “is it better to be in a committed homosexual relationship than to be an adulterous heterosexual?”
On sexuality, it’s a difficult one for the church. They advocate an ideal. They have an understanding that the ideal is not always lived up to e.g. parents of children are married in church and a priest with a lapse of his vow is forgiven.
Joseph stood by Mary when she was pregnant with Jesus. According to the customs of the time, Joseph could have disowned her. Joseph was guided by the spirit to stand by Mary in contradiction of the customs of that time.
The difficulty for the church, when they move away from advocating the ideal, people can hear mixed messages. It’s important that their language is compassionate however and not insensitive.

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Well presumably Joseph or somebody else had impregnated her and it was only right. Mind you the story of the angel she made up got way out of hand and is still doing the rounds now!

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Rawhide Bareback Purcell is definitely living a double life. How does he get away with it ? I mean, we all know what he is up to. I just don’t get how something so clear and obvious is just ignored by his confreres and superiors. In any other walk of life, something so out of step with what he professes or is expected by the people or institutions he is connected to would simply not be tolerated. No matter what you think about the issue of sexuality, celibacy, his profession etc., the fact that he is so brazenly living a lie and being so duplicitous should surely be an indication of his unsuitability. Why would anyone put their trust or confidence in someone like that ? It baffles me.

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10.42
It is all about people coming forward with the Truth like Yvonne Drake did a very courageous Lady.
Let us hope Yvonne gets justice and rattles the Bishop, Ger Fitzgerald and Cleo who is suppose to be independent of the collar brigade of the Brotherhood.

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Why is Abbot Purcell called Rawhide? Does he dress up in crotchless chaps, a Stetson and cracks the whip?

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As remarked on previously, the good auxiliary bishop should stick to evangelizing central Asia or wherever is diocese is located. He has nothing to offer Ireland.

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ex – Bishop Kieran Conry was good at living a double life throughout most of his priestly and episcopal life, running several girlfriends at the same time. He didn’t seem to see anything odd in that and was not in the slightest phased by it. He was just bemused at people being so let down by him and it. And, many of his brother priests and bishops knew what he was up to, but they too just thought it something that was normal. That says something about the clerical culture. It’s not just coverup. It’s the normalisation of duplicity and living a double life.

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I think the women involved were married and their husbands couldn’t fully satisfy them.

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The summer of love 2016. What ever happened to the key actors. Well to my surprise Holy Week in a cathedral in London. Who did I see but one ginger seminarian reading. Further to my surprise, I have since heard this same person is attending Allen Hall. Lorcán Keller is back ladies and Gentlemen!
Does a leopard change his spots? no it doesn’t…. have you heard anything Pat. I’m sure there is plenty to report if you reach out.

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Leave him alone! Everyone deserves a second chance. You are just jealous of him because they won’t let a reject like you back into a seminary. 😤😤😤

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In the nineties Westminster had a reputation for taking literally anyone. I had always thought the odious Elsie had a strictly controlling rein on recruitment and that it would be too much to hope for a legacy which would explode in his face.

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Pat,
I note that we will soon be allowed to hug again.
Can we expect to see you getting a hug from Eamon Martin?

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12.15: Answer: Laughing at all of us fools!! And more particularly preparing a file for vilification of his name on this blog..Believe me…Pray, Pray, Pray.

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Ohhhh, we know ! I don’t have any problem with him being a PB or whatever. I just wish he’d go and do it somewhere outside the priesthood and the Church. If that is what he wants. Let him enjoy himself. But, not at the same time as trying to fool us and pretend to be all pious and sincere. Simple.

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Had to look it up. Power bottoms play a very specific type of role: They receive on the bottom while leading or controlling the flow of play. Then they preach pious sermons during A Day with Mary…

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Pat Buckley didn’t try to get a young cute policeman drunk and get in to his trackies….. Remind me ?! Ah, yes, that was PB JPL, wasn’t it ? I think his intentions that night were far from honourable. Pull the plank out of your own eye, JP, before pointing out the splinter in the other’s eye. Or something like that, I think the Bible goes….

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It seems that the RCC isn’t the only outfit with sexually related double standards issues.
According to an increasing firestorm on social media today Ms Michelle O Neill’s new jockey has been putting a bit of stick about.
Is this the case of the fury of a woman scorned or even a loyal foot soldier sidelined.

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A fundamental form of duplicity is the attempt to present oneself as being perfect,”sorted”. Everyone is broken in some way and the world would be a much more humane place if we accompanied each other in our weakness rather than all of these supposed experts pontificating from a great height about the lives of others.

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In romance, ideally people should come together already feeling fulfilled within themselves, and thus just appreciating that in the other. Rather that expecting the other to supply that sense of well-being, which they don’t feel on their own. Then there’s a lot of problems. And also along with the projection which comes with romance where we project all our ideas, ideals, and desires, and romantic fantasies onto the other which the other can not possibly fulfill. Once you get to know them, you realize that it’s not prince charming or cinderella. It’s just a very ordinary person who’s also struggling and unless one is able to see them with, to like them as well as feel desire for them, and to also have loving kindness and compassion, then, it’s going to be a very difficult relationship.

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Ah Seamus you must be a celibate. You will be aware of the saying about religious life that you enter for the wrong reasons and stay for the right reasons. In reality I think in religious life and in relationship most people get into it and stay in it for their real reasons and are not averse to kidding themselves.

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12 29: De Integro: One of the serious flaws of this blog is that it allows the most horrendous judgments and tearing apart of the many who have ignominious public falls, as in the case of the Ennis cleric. Yes, we have a moral duty to name all wrings, injustices and abuse. But, is it necessary, morally or otherwise, to continually hound and chase after the “fallen” by commenters who, by any definition are very likely horribly imperfect and whose cupboards hold dark secrets!! The “perfect” people seem so harsh, merciless and unforgiving in a very scary way. As you say, we are each broken and wounded in some ways and indeed the response should be more humane, kind, understanding and Christian. Some commenters are on so high a pedestal of virtue that, God forbid, they should fall, they will be unfixable, ever!! I have no problem with stating our expectations of those in authority or privilege, but is the constant stone throwing necessary in the face of personal humiliations? I merely ask.

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@1:28 re wrings.
The clerics who receive the treatment you object to would be more likely to receive the treatment you want if they weren’t functionaries of a corrupt institution which very clearly says everyone else should live one way and yet its clergy live another.
Far from being objectionable, what you describe is the natural result of this situation. You also make the incredible leap of saying that critics here think they are perfect. Nobody but you and your ilk is saying that and you show the true impoverishment of your mind by saying so. You also indicate that you think those advocating moral standards for the community are of necessity immoral themselves. I would expect this false association to be made by RCs especially priests and it betrays the warped mindset you have.

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1.28: I think you have a point and I agree with you. However this blog also offers a platform for honest expression that doesn’t exist within the church. I wonder what action, if any, would the Lady from Ennis have got if it hadn’t been covered here.

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1.28
You mention Ennis well if Ger Fitzgerald had said okay he has made a mistake then that would be fine as we all make mistakes.
However I hope we do not get a lynch mob after the person who points out our mistakes as that is what he done.
He even lied to the Bishop on the first occasion and had to go back and tell the truth to the Bishop.
Do you think the people will forget and do you honestly think the Bishop will forget this episode caused by Ger Fitzgerald.
Where can a Bishop put a priest who lies and has double standards so it will be a nightmare for the Bishop and really the Bishop should be more honest than Ger and say to him chose another career path as where in the dioceses could I put you.

To constantly stand at the Altar saying Holy Mass knowingly lied to the people and the Bishop does not say much about his Priestly vocation.

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Comparmentalise dear Patrick, comparmentalise!!! Meet your paramour only on certain days and let them know from the beginning that you have no intention of leaving your wife, husband, vocation. That way everyone is on the same page, there are plenty of fellow travellers out there lonely man and women in loveless relationships or presbyteries. It’s win win for both parties. Ger would still be in his relationship if he hadn’t promised happy ever after and had made it clear to Yvonne from day 1 that he was not leaving the priesthood. They could have enjoyed discreet days out, dinners, nights away, holidays etc and most importantly companionship.

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…and how is Captain Underpants these days ? Left the SJs, I believe. Set loose on the People of God ? I bet there’s been a steady stream of packages from Amazon delivered to wherever he is. Small ones. He likes the skimpy ones, I hear !!

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I was not abused in seminary.

But I still have nightmares over my abuse in the Cathedral presbytery in Belfast.

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Re the reference to scripture above. I think it is very clear that a lot of clerics’ favourite Bible passage is Ezekiel 23:20 where Oholibah lusted after her policemen whose members were like those of donkeys in their trackie bottoms. 👼

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Bad things happening with Fr. Tom Doherty in St. Patrick Ballina. Makes Fr Ger seem tame!
More info coming!

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Fr Tom Doherty! I was waiting for him to get a mention here. He lives a very… uh… active online life! His nickname on Grindr is Matt Hep and he is fond of fisting!

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“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

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Loads of double lifers. A member of the the formation staff at an English seminary was a frequent visitor to gay saunas, and hoodwinked the staff of his seminary by being openly gay during his formation and playing the victim. He even fellated a Monsignor whilst a seminarian. I guess he could have changed once the ontological change had taken place…

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This miraculous “ontological change ” farrago? When did it enter the RCC mumbo-jumbo lexicon?
I never heard of it in my 5 years seminary time, leaving before sub D. In fact I read of it for first time on this blog a few years ago. It’s regularly mentioned here now, so I’m wondering out of which 🎒bag….gage of confidence tricks the RCC has dreamt this one up.

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@ 10:49 pm
CC, what years were you in seminary? Ontological change was popularized with JP2.

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Anon @11:01: If you’re going to respond then try, yes try, to answer the question more helpfully: not with another question!
Can some other more intelligent person helpfully say when the concept of ontological change via ordination entered the mainstream RC lexicon and indicate its origins. By mainstream I mean the ‘big thing” it seems to have become by constant reference to it in +Pat’s blog. My own seminary years were mid 1960’s

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This is the exact same in Scotland. A sem from paisley is pleading innocence but it is well known he has lived a double life and has no intention of changing. He needs to be removed

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