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A LETTER TO RORY.

Dear Rory,

I know that you will have found the Blogs of yesterday and today difficult.

However, I suggest that you receive them as a challenge to get off the fence and move on with your life.

You have two options now:

1. GO BACK TO ARMAGH:

You can go back to Eamon Martin and to a parish. It might be a bit embarrassing initially – but most people are kind and understanding of human weakness.

Your “shame” will fade into the background and if you are good and kind to people many will let you put it behind you.

But the same Rory that messed up in Armagh will still be inside you.

You will have to re-embrace life long celibacy and chastity.

And nature has already shown you that you are not able for that hard and really “uneccesary” road.

Attempting to live a life you were unsuited was your downfall.

And it may very well be the same again.

2. PROVEHITO IN ALTUM

“LAUNCH OUT INTO THE DEEP”

I think that Providence and Nature has spoken to you.

You do not have to be a priest to serve God and others.

In fact, the more you are yourself, the more God can use you and the more good you can do for others.

You cannot give what you do not have. To truly give peace to others you must be at peace within yourself.

And let’s remember there have always been good celibate priests and chaste nuns who have done great good.

But they had the gift / charism for celibacy and chastity.

It’s been a great mistake for the Church to impose celibacy on ALL priests.

Not everyone called to priesthood is called to celibacy. The majority of priests are not called to celibacy.

I don’t think you had a vocation to celibacy.

And, if you still want to be a priest – and a therapistwhy not join an Anglican diocese – or become an independent priest?

Independent ministry has been wonderful for me for 36 years now.

BUT RORY:

Get off the fence.

Stop doing the double.

Embrace life and love and maybe find your soul mate.

And if you are going to continue in therapy, don’t hide your years in seminary and priesthood.

List it as part of your CV.

It will put some off.

It will attract others.

You cannot and should not hide 20 years of life and experience.

Rory, stop being an unhappy caterpillar and become God’s 🦋 butterfly.

And if your wings are pink – so what. Embrace them.

105 replies on “A LETTER TO RORY.”

11.09 Fr Rory Coyle & Fr Jerry Carey are 2 School Chaplins with the same obsession for exposing themselves to families & ex pupils whilst being protected & financed by their Diocese.

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Patsy is day 3 going to be an email to Amy Martin to place her in the loop.
Maybe another branch Oratory coming out of Larne.

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Cardinal Jean-Pierre Ricard retired in 2019 after 18 years as bishop of Bordeaux .French Cardinal Jean-Pierre Ricard has been named by the Church as one of 11 serving or former bishops accused of sexual violence.
In a statement, the cardinal said he had abused a 14-year-old girl when he was a parish priest 35 years ago and would now withdraw from his functions.
A year ago, a panel found evidence of thousands of paedophiles operating in the French Catholic Church for decades.
All 11 accused face either prosecution or disciplinary action in the Church.
The latest revelations came during the French bishops’ conference in Lourdes in south-western France.
Archbishop Eric de Moulins-Beaufort told reporters the 11 included a former bishop of Créteil, Michel Santier, who retired last year after he was accused of committing sexual abuse two decades earlier.
He read out a letter from Cardinal Ricard, who said he had behaved in a “reprehensible manner” with a 14-year-old girl and his conduct had inevitably caused her serious and lasting consequences.
Now retired after 18 years as bishop of Bordeaux, the 78-year-old cardinal said he had asked her for forgiveness and apologised to those he had hurt.
The current bishop, Jean-Paul James, expressed his sympathy to the victim and renewed his appeal to anyone who had suffered abuse in the diocese to come forward.
The head of the conference said that apart from the cardinal and Michel Santier, six bishops had been accused by the judiciary or by the Church and that one was already deceased.
Another two former bishops were the subject of a judicial investigation while a third had been reported to prosecutors, he added.
In its report in October 2021, an independent commission set up by the Catholic Church in France found that some 216,000 children had been abused since the 1950s, largely boys aged 10-13.
The head of the panel said there was evidence of up to 3,200 abusers and evidence had been handed to prosecutors in 22 cases where criminal action could still be launched.
France is one of many countries where sexual abuse allegations have rocked the Roman Catholic Church. Last year, Pope Francis changed the Church’s laws to make sexual abuse, grooming minors for sex, possessing child pornography and covering up abuse a criminal offence under Vatican law.
In a message ahead of the autumn bishops’ conference in Lourdes, the Pope said the Church of France had again been overwhelmed by the abuses carried out by some of its pastors.
The conference was aiming to find how to improve communication and transparency in abuse cases involving the clergy.

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Some Priests working as school & hospital Chaplins can’t seem to resist displaying their privates in public. The silence from Bishops & their members on the exact whereabouts of several of these deviants including Fr Jerry Carey the beach wanker in Ennis parish is a very serious matter of public safety.

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Context please. Fr Coyle sent a dick pic to an adult male on Grindr, which I understand is not uncommon, and did not know it was a former pupil of a school where he had been chaplain. You seem to imply he did this publicly and knew who the recipient of his message was. It was foolish, deplorable but don’t turn it into something it was not.

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Pat, the Rory story is well baked. It’s finished. He sent adult pics to an adult on a gay dating app. Adult to adult. I think it is time to focus on the Holy Ghost/Spiritans scandal, which is truly appalling and alarming.

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So, should judges, lawyers, school teachers, social workers, doctors, etc., not use Grindr and share explicit photographs? There is an opt-out on the app if you don’t want to receive such pictures – was that ticked? Priests should not be using Grindr because of the sacred promises they took – but that’s an ecclesiastical/moral problem – not a civil law issue, and it’s certainly not a safeguarding issue unless the person is a minor.

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10.21 you seem to imply that it’s acceptable in the “real world” that you clearly don’t occupy for persons advertising themselves as police vetted professionally qualified counsellors to vulnerable people to be Randomly sending photos of their private bits & pieces to random strangers that sometimes turn out to be ex students. Take a good long hard look at the empty pews & be informed of “reality” Father & Co.

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There wasn’t an opt out for photos when I was on Grindr, which was at the same time that Rory was on it.

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Fr/Dr/Rev Rory Coyle - using Irish language version of his name to avoid detection in United Kingdomsays:

12.49 More like Fr Rory’s goose is cooked thanks to Bishop Pat & his teams doing their bit to make the world a safer place.

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To be perfectly honest it’s really none of your business where these people are. We do not have laws that enable nosy public like you tracking on anyone, convicted if a crime or just guilty of just plain incompetence. And in the case of convicted pedophiles, the Gardai know exactly where they are, and covertly at risk to their own jobs, make sure people in areas know. Gardai in Ireland get a bad wrap sometimes, but they don’t go around shooting innocent people like other countries and they know alot more than people think.

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How do you know that Rory has not been involved in acts of pedophilia? Have you forgotten the whistleblower’s words from your own blog in 2016:
‘orgies in Dublin, gay beaches in Portugal, renting rooms by the hour in Soho in London for sex meets. He told me all about it. He told me a whole lot more about his exploits but I didn’t save it. He’s a total pervert. He didn’t realise I knew him cos he used to be the school chaplain at XX XXXXX in XXXXXXXXX when I used to go there. He’s just a hypocrite. Denouncing gay people from the pulpit and then shagging guys when no one is looking.’

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7.51 most clergy are hypocrites, they knowingly take a vow of celibacy and then that are proved to be either shagging men in saunas or sticking their bum through the sauna curtain to have unprotected sex with faceless passing strangers. Others are Marriage wreckers targetting unhappy or vulnerable parishioners they invite for counselling or become privy to the troubles of parishioners in confession & go on to share private & personal details with their self entitled staff & volunteers for the purposes of nasty mockery & abusive harrassment. There should be no church involvement in counselling, hospitals or schools etc., where they abuse their roles to identify & source new victims.

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We don’t know – any more than we don’t know that you are one. But sharing adult pictures on an adult hook-up site is pretty much like stickers in the window of an ice cream truck advertising its wares – it’s undoubtedly not de facto nonce land.

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5.34 So sad, and so evil of these awful men to do that to a little boy placed in their care because his mother had died of tb.

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It will take real strength of character for Rory to give up his Fulham housing. We all know the housing crisis in London, with skyhigh rents and grossly inflated house prices. Rory likes living with the Servites, being a self-employed therapist, getting his Irish Centre salary and Armagh stipend.
He is keeping his options open for a return to ministry if the therapy career doesn’t take off.
He has a lucrative lifestyle that will be hard to give it up. Few therapists starting out get free consultation rooms, free bed and board, course fees paid and two salaries. He clearly has no wish to go voluntarily and Amy is happy to keep the collection cash flowing to Fulham.

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He would struggle to live in London on a net salary of less than £3000 a month. He would have to houseshare.

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10.23 Fr Coyle or anyone that makes a habit of showing their dick to total strangers could struggle to live, full stop. Fools to themselves too. It’s a dangerous world out there, not nice to hear that anything bad has been done to anyone, priests or lay people. Self responsibility and self accountability must prevail.

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It is a pity that Rory has not already made up a clear decision about his future in the years he has had available to him in London. No doubt him him life has been too comfortable for him, and he has been financially supported in his prevarication. Your setting out of the options is good, + Pat, but it does not take the brains of a rocket scientist to work out what his options, and the consequences for the future, would be. And Rory and his mentors / supporters (including + Armagh) should have been able to see these options clearly enough over the last few years. If Rory makes a clear and honest and open decision, either way, which is manifestly honest and transparent, then he has my support. Either way. However, I think the option to move out and on under his own steam is the right way forward. My worry about re-entering the clerical womb is that, like so many others, it will only be a matter of time before he starts to behave secretly and dishonestly, which will not be good for him or for us, the Church. His sexuality is at the core of this as a driver, and such an energy it is that it will not put up with being repressed. It will out. I doubt if, like the vast majority of priests, Rory has a natural calling to celibacy. So, hard although it may be, Rory needs to make a new life for himself in my view, which is honest and full of integrity. Then he can stop scurrying around in the shadows and can hold his head high.

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It looks like Rawhide Barebacker Purcell is going back in to the clerical / monastic womb. Safer there, no doubt. And more comfortable. However, we know that it will only be a matter of time before he is heading off to the Boiler House Sauna (entrance fee 24 Euro; disposable douche 5 Euro) and is up to his old antics in the shadows. Why has no one had the balls to tell him to bugger off and make a new life where he can do what he wants, within the law, and stop trying to fool us ?

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The Archbishop of Armagh needs to have a stop position on this. He needs to give Rory a definite date for when the MIA status is ended, one way or the other, as Pat suggests in today’s blog. A lay diocesan pastoral worker caught in similar circumstances to Rory’s would have been sacked quickly or they would have resigned. Is Rory going to be allowed to drift on for years? Armagh has been extremely generous to him, but this farce must come to an end. I’m sure that the Servites never thought that this would go on so long, or that they would end up with a self-employed lodger who is a layman in all but name.

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I reckon there will have been phone calls between + Armagh and the Servites over the revelations of the last few days. The Servites, especially, will not be enjoying the exposure. They seem to host a whole array of MIAs and C/Os at their house. Nice source of income, I would imagine. But, they will expect them to behave themselves. I reckon Rory will be shown the door PDQ.

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The Servite Priory is like a modern version of a Mother and Baby home, except that in this case it is MIAs who are sent there to avoid scandalising the sheep.

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9.47 Birds of a feather flock together, the Archbishop & the Servites & all concerned are very angry that yet cozy arrangement for a deviant cleric such as Fr/Rev/Dr Rory Coyle using the Irish version of his name in England to avoid detection has been rumbled by Bishop Pat Buckley and his teams.

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@ 9.47
Why do you not contact Archbishop Martin and ask when the end date is and if there is there one.
admin@aracoeli.com
A lot of people have a lot to say on this blog but they should put their words into action as action speaks louder of words.

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There’s no point wrting to ++Armagh. I sent an email to that very email address to complain about two priests. I got an acknowledgement from one of the lay administrators saying that it would be brought to the Archbishop’s attention. There was no response after that, however.

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1.24 Wake up & smell the coffee. No Bishop or Archbishop gives a damn nor does anything about any wrong doing. The entire Roman Catholic Church is internationally recognised as an abusive and dangerous organisation with an obsession for paedophilia etc. In short, do yourself a massive favour & keep away from them. You’d have more joy writing to Santa for Christmas at this rate.

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9.48 I would be more concerned about this priest molesting his patients then I would be about a few grammatical errors on his ad.

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The number of people on this blog who write chaplin when they mean chaplain, though.

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Does Rory live like a priest with the Servites? Is hevon the Mass roster? Does he concelebrate, hear confessions, do house calls, see people at the door? If a parishoner called with a problem, would he meet them as a priest, or hand out his business card for a £100 an hour consultation? Or is he a layman now?

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One wonders why his ‘RightTherapist’ website remains accessible when the other one was made inaccessible.

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11.06 leave Fr Coyle alone, he has a living to earn. If these rich people with more money than sense want to pay him £100 to counsel them or show them his dick or whatever floats their boat, mind your own business & let them get on with it. The Roman Catholic Church has been synonymous with weirdos & abusers for so long now, only those that engage with it in some format or condone it remain engaged with them. It’s a free world, embrace and enjoy it well away from Coyle & his types.

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The Righttherapist.com site is a directory. It’s not Rory’s own site, unlike the one he created and then took down, presumably because of the fuss the Servites made about running a business from their house. Though I suppose he could ask to be delisted from Righttherapist.com

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Just when on the subject of a Fr Rory. I thought Rory Sheehan had left his post? Run off with his latest squeeze? Have I missed something? No doubt someone will enlighten me

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Next time I’m in London I’m going to stand outside the Servites, with Grindr on, to see who is on it. Isn’t that what Channel 4 did in Maynooth?

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4pm University Concert Hall Limerick holds its own with any of them in West End or Broadway.

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The lay people made a great effort to dress up for the occasion. Why shouldn’t the clergy do likewise, or do you want them to go about like the ACP lads, wearing Fr Dougal jumpers?

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Odd how Our Lord didn’t dress up like the high priests but dressed like the people of the time. Do 1St year seminarians dress in clerical shirts when on holidays. You used only wear the collar as a seminarian when in choir or at mass in college chapel

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3.10
Is that the parish which hit the headlines with its indiscreet elderly layperson, mar dhea, saying the wrong thing?

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Who was the priest who wrote the stuff about abortion/ivf in Tullamore? At least the priest in Kerry stood over his words. There’ll be no martyr in Tullamore only Pat

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4:11
Some clerics seem to consider themselves omnicompetent. Potential clients are given the impression he has 18 years experience as a professionally qualified psychotherapist. Not a good sign, in my opinion.

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6:54, yes, he seems to be counting his time from IV Divinity in Maynooth onwards and his curacies as part of his 18 years experience. It seems a bit disingenuous. I don’t remember him showing any interest in psychotherapy or receiving any training in it when I knew him in the cathedral parish.

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Well done Rory, I find it funny that they feel they have a right to tell you want to do with your life :). Keep smiling, keep upskilling and watch these poisoned old bastards enter the grave one by one.

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I feel sorry for the parishoners funding MIAs, and I believe that dioceses using charitable funds on MIAs to be an abuse of charitable status, which has implications for all taxpayers.

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I feel sorry for you that your career is clearly in free fall and you are jealous of Rory on the up. 🫣

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If Rory were a lay man making his own way, and not a MIA sponger, there would be no comment. He shouldn’t have been ordained; he shouldn’t be living a high life in London funded by vulnerable, poor lay people in Armagh who are unceasingly asked to put more into the collection. I used to have standing orders and covenants for the parishes I’ve lived in, but now they don’t get a washer from me.

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Pat, I am glad to see your kinder, more compassionate side pouring forth from the blog this a.m. to Rory Coyle, and the sensible advise imparted.
I fully understand the aggravation caused by hypocritical Roman Catholic priests, having it all, saying one thing and, doing to opposite, expecting us to accept their duplicitous behaviour, which we definitely do not!
It makes a fool of themselves, and a mockery of the church, not forgetting for one minute the effect all of this has on parishioners, who contribute to the Catholic church coffers.
Of course the faithful have been complicit in placing their pastors on a pedestal, instead of seeing them for what the are, the same as the rest of us, with the same needs, fortunately that mindset is being erased, slowly but surely, which will make for a healthier relationship.
My concern is the huge pressure on these relatively young men, coming to terms with their sexuality, how they have been outed, how it relates to their interaction with Catholicism, their branching out into secular life, in itself daunting, after being cossetted in some ways, yet, their independence quashed for many years, plus the potential for suicide.
I agree with you in so far, as a choice has to be made, at this point in mandated required Catholic clerical celibacy rules, (which are in my opinion unachievable, and nonsensical, as has been shown.) from all points of view it’s the honest way forward.
What’s to be done about the other 50% who continue their clandestine lives?
Is the only way forward, lifting the celibacy rule, for heterosexuals AND homosexual Roman Catholic church clerics? I can’t see that happening anytime soon.
More questions than answers…….
1)’It Is Not a Closet. It Is a Cage.’ Gay Catholic Priests Speak Outhttps://www.nytimes.com › 2019/02/17 › it-is-not-a-closet…
2)Nearly half of LGBTQ youth seriously considered suicide …https://www.npr.org › 2022/05/05 › lgbtq-youth-thoughts…
5 May 2022

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I phoned up the Servites and said that I was a Catholic coming to London to work, had great references, a steady job, and a deposit available and I asked if I could rent a room from them. They said, “No, sorry, we don’t do that sort of thing but we hope you find somewhere”.

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Rory Sheehan has been openly dating a physiotherapist for years. He has not left post. Noel Treanor was told about this and warned Rory to make sure it never sees the light of day.

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Noel Treanor covers up for all his gay priests who refuse to be celibate, is this because he himself is a homosexual? Or is he heterosexual and active?

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If Francis wanted to do something truly noteworthy, he would wrap up the present synodality exercise by calling for an ecumenical Council to focus on the moral reform of the clergy.

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There were 8 priests ordained in Rory’s Maynooth class in 2005. Where are they now?
The students ordained were: Rory Coyle from Armagh; Anthony O’Mahony from Cork & Ross; Kevin Duddy and Peter O’Kane from Derry; Patrick Hughes, from Kildare & Leighlin; Christopher O’Donnell from Limerick; Patrick Donnelly from Meath and Mile Vidic from Mostar.

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Two have already been caught sleeping with each other and it’s been brushed under the carpet. The Icelandic one has put a complaint in about sexual advances by a fellow seminarian.

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Something odd here – people are more condemnatory of a lapse of judgement and moral failing by an Irish priest than the French Prince of The Church, who admits sexually molesting a child.

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Today’s blog subject, chosen by Bishop Pat, is Rory Coyle, not the wicked lib cardinal in France. He may well be the lead subject on another day.

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Reply: Anonymoussays:
Nov 8, 2022 at 4:49 pm
Catholicism French style.
Not one sexual abuser “prince” of the Roman Catholic French church, Oh no! but, eleven(11) French Roman Catholic Bishops sexual abuser’s.

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The priest who closed the oratory is a dick tator and not even benign!!
I bet he consulted no one – the people should take him on like in Wales where Bishop Brignal did that old canard of bishops and VGs ‘I can shut you down’ only for the revolting lay people to get his decision overturned and overruled by the Vatican – what a tosser!!
The Servites said no room at the inn because the lad had good references and a steady job whereas they want clergy who are fecked up and dysfunctional.
Please can we have a blog entry on Peter Smith and his alleged use of male prostitutes the dirty bitch!! And him the spokesman for family life and ethics. If it’s out there then he wasn’t discrete as Hume advised.
The clergy and the use of prostitutes would be a great blog – one presumes predominantly rent boys!! Just like Trujillo – wonder if Smith beat his bitches after coitus and the discarded them!!
Does anyone know anything about Gunter the new Abbot of Dioiu Abbey wherever that is??!!

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6.33 lovely wee priest, shame Fr Coyle pissed on his own parade. He had it all. Maybe he still does with Archbishop Eamon Martin and the others molly coddling him and supporting him in Armagh & London.

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Has Tom Deenihan replied? Tom’s mistreatment of Dom Benedict Andersen is morally reprehensible. Tom knows neither the day nor the hour that the knock on the door is coming. Has the comment maker who keeps asking to knock on Tom’s door, taken his own advice? Tom cannot be trusted.

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8.30: For God’s sake Seamus. You’ve told us this same irritation of yours all too often. Be of courage: GO TO BISHOP DEENIHAN. Annoy him, not us.

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6.36pm what about Bishop Phonsie Cullinans light fingered priest?? €14,000 wasn’t it gone astray??

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6.36. Those in the know are well aware of what they are really smoking.

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https://www.thetablet.co.uk/news/16077/outrage-and-despair-in-france-at-scale-of-abuse-by-bishops
OUTRAGE AND DESPAIR IN FRANCE AT SCALE OF ABUSE BY BISHOPS
by Tom Heneghan 7th November 2022. The Tablet.
“The total of bishops implicated in cases of sexual abuse is now 11 and some bishops are under investigation.”
“France’s beleaguered bishops studied their options under civil and canon law at their autumn plenary in Lourdes this week while the ire of lay Catholics around the country rose to incendiary levels and shocking new revelations emerged. “

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Less than half are still in ministry. Alan Burke, now director of mission for the Bons, was recently invited back by St Patrick’s College to do a book launch.

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Stop using England as a dumping ground for Irish MIA or perverted priests. We don’t send ours to Ireland.

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8.34 true, the Irish church has been dumping, shaming & forcing the weakest & most vulnerable citizens to the UK for decades.

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What does ‘a director of mission’ with Bons Secours actually do? What type of ‘Mission’ were they conducting in Tuam?

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