A victim of Malachy Finegan is to launch legal action against Pope Francis and Catholic Church authorities in Ireland.
The priest has been accused of sexual abuse across Co Down, including at St Colman’s College in Newry where he taught from 1967 and was president for a decade.
At least 12 young boys are thought to have been sexually abused while he was at St Colman’s, while many more were physically abused.
Finegan, who died in 2002, was also a parish priest of Clonduff in Hilltown in Co Down, where it is alleged he carried out further serious sexual abuse.
Concerns have also been raised that he may have been an RUC informer.
It emerged last year that the Public Prosecution Service had decided not to prosecute in eight cases following a police investigation linked to the activities of the former cleric.
The Irish News has now learned that one of his victims is to launch legal action against the Diocese of Dromore, the Archdiocese of Armagh, the Bishop of Rome and the Holy See, arising out of allegations of abuse.
Solicitor Kevin Winters, of KRW Law, said the outworking of a PSNI and Police Ombudsman investigation “has resulted in a huge loss of confidence that anything will ever be done to expose just how much the Church knew about Finegan’s activities”.
The solicitor revealed that he is “in ongoing communication with the PSNI on a number of issues arising from the investigation”.
Last year Catholic church authorities said a mosaic tribute to Bishop Francis Brooks, who died in 2010, was to be removed from Newry Cathedral following criticism of his handling of Finegan.
Images of the bishop, which were displayed in St Colman’s College where he was principal prior to Finegan taking over in 1976, were also removed.
Mr Winters said the response doesn’t go far enough.
“Removing photographs from walls and digging up mosaics are mere token gestures which go nowhere near remedying the justice deficit here,” he said.
“This case is being taken in order to try and address the real disappointment and frustration felt by many who took part in the criminal inquiry.”
The leader of the Catholic Church in Ireland, Archbishop Eamon Martin, has previously apologised “unreservedly for the hurt and damage caused to victims by Fr Finegan, or any other priest or church representative”.
PAT SAYS
It is good that this victim is taking this case against the Vatican and the Irish Church.
It will be a tough case but he has very good lawyers.
Managing to corral the Irish Hierarchy and evil Rome into the guilty corral will be difficult but will be achieved after a number of cases are brought against them.
Its a case of slowly, slowly catchee monkey.
Breaching the walls of the establishment is sadly, a huge task as they have all the money and power and influence behind them.
It will not be achieved by the first attack or the second.
It will be achieved as a result if multiple failed attempts by vulnerable but brave people.
The RCC is literally AN AXIS OF EVIL.
It has Satan and all that is evil on its side.
But in the end TRUTH, GOODNESS, JUSTICE will prevail.
“Good for ever on the scaffold,
Evil always on the throne.
But God stands within the shadows.
Keeping watch upon His own”.
Lord Jesus, who raises the lowly and the poor, and who casts down the mighty from their evil thrones, look upon this victim and all victims, and be their champion in their battle with the aligned forces of evil and deliver your Divine Justice for them in the Name of Your Blessed Cross. Amen.
A range of sources agree that profound change is required to correct the flawed underlying mentality that continues to give rise to problems, and has allowed senior officials to escape taking responsibility.
Police patrol St. Peter’s Square and the Vatican on March 25. (Photo: Register file photo/Edward Pentin)
Edward Pentin Vatican 2020 National Catholic Register
VATICAN CITY — Cardinal George Pell, the former prefect of the Vatican’s Secretariat for the Economy which Pope Francis created six years ago to monitor and reform Vatican finances, delivered a pointed message on June 30 about the threat that financial corruption poses to the Church’s mission.
“Undoubtedly, money is one of God’s gifts, it is also a source of temptation,” Pell said in a video message delivered June 30 to the Global Institute of Church Management at the Pontifical University of the Holy Cross in Rome. “To say that the Church is not a business provides no justification for us to be inefficient much less for us to be corrupt.”
He recalled being surprised to learn that St. Teresa of Calcutta had said “for the clergy there are two great challenges: one touches on sexuality and another touched on money. And she thought that the danger from money was greater and stronger than that from errant sexuality.”
Cardinal Pell’s remarks were conspicuously well-timed, coming in the wake of the arrest last month of Italian financier Gianluigi Torzi on charges of “extortion, embezzlement, aggravated fraud and money laundering,” relating to a London property deal carried out by Vatican Secretariat of State officials that went sour.
The continuing controversy over the flawed transaction has focused attention on Vatican management practices that have allowed senior officials to duck their own responsibility and act with impunity, fostering both corruption and poor morale among some Vatican officials, according to a range of sources who spoke with the Register.
The cardinal’s video message also came just one day after companies owned by Italian businessman Raffaele Mincione, who was also connected with the London investment, filed lawsuits against the Secretariat of State and the holding company that owns the property.
The Vatican apprehended Torzi on June 5 and then granted him bail ten days later. Senior Vatican officials, meanwhile, claimed to have no knowledge of Torzi’s alleged crimes or preferred not to comment.
A two-year investigative report by the Financial Times, however, found evidence that the deal was “signed off by some of the most senior officials in the Catholic Church.”
The documented evidence, the article added, “cast doubt on the Vatican’s official narrative” that the speculative London property deal that has burdened the Vatican with enormous financial losses “was the work of Torzi and a handful of junior administrators who have been suspended during the investigation.”
A former Vatican official told the Register it was “inconceivable” that senior curial officials knew nothing about the deal. “How does one single layman force the most powerful dicastery in the Roman Curia to do something like that?” the ex-official asked.
Eugenio Hasler’s Case
Indeed, all the sources the Register contacted concurred that senior officials who issue instructions make the rules, which often makes them “untouchable.”
One prominent example is the case of Eugenio Hasler, a former lay official who worked at the highest levels of the Governorate of Vatican City State, the Vatican’s principal administrative office. By all accounts a hard-working and morally upright employee, Hasler was dismissed by the Vatican in 2017 after more than a decade of service for no formal reason, and no administrative procedure was opened against him.
“He was a very good civil servant, someone who put a professional bet entirely on the system,” a former Vatican official told the Register. “It’s terrible what they did to him, a monstrous injustice.”
The son of a major in the Swiss Guard, Hasler broke his silence in April, writing on his Facebook page that he was the victim of letters written against him containing “absolutely untrue things.” In June 23 comments to the Register, he said it was “impossible” to compress his complex story into a few lines, but he recounted being summoned to speak with Pope Francis in Santa Marta. Afterwards he “never received formal accusations.”
“There was no possibility of defense, the investigations were also carried out in Italy without any formal authorization,” he explained. “I don’t have a letter of dismissal in my hand. I was basically thrown out from one day to the next on the basis of anonymous letters and accusations that I can fully deny (and which I did by writing to the Pope a few days after meeting him). I have never received a reply or a chance to defend myself.”
Former Vatican official Vik van Brantegem, who edits the website Korazym.org, has drawn attention to Hasler’s story, as has the Vaticanist Marco Tosatti.
Hasler’s position in the Governorate was highly significant “because the Vatican obtains all of its income for its operating budget from the Governorate’s operation of the Vatican Museums, the Vatican City’s ‘Annona’ supermarket, and sales at the Vatican Post Office,” noted Tosatti, who described the dismissal as “another case of an honest, professionally prepared layman, generous in his service, thrown out because his work bothered some — or more — obscure and not very admissible interest of some prelate.”
According to Tosatti, the individual whose ambitions were responsible for Hasler’s dismissal was Msgr. Paolo Nicolini, a senior Governorate official “who controlled all of the administration of the Vatican Museums (the strongest source of income).”
Archbishop Carlo Viganò, who as the general secretary of the Governorate was Hasler’s superior around the year 2010, described him to the Register as “very honest” and the “only official able to confront” Msgr. Nicolini.
Similar Incidents
Other similar but high-profile cases of dismissal without reason or due process, and where the individual also received no compensation, include Ettore Gotti Tedeschi, the former president of the Vatican Bank under Benedict XVI, suddenly dismissed in 2012 as he was trying to increase transparency by implementing new anti-money laundering rules.
Despite Rome judges acquitting Gotti Tedeschi in 2015 of money laundering allegations and ruling that he was serving the good of the Church, the Italian financier said the Church remained “indifferent” to his situation.
A more recent case is that of the Vatican’s first auditor general Libero Milone, who in 2017 said he was framed, unlawfully dismissed, and then had charges dropped against him a year later by the Vatican. Milone, who believes he was forced out because he was venturing into areas of corruption, remains without work despite an illustrious and unblemished career as an auditor and management consultant.
And most recently among a long list of similar cases was the firing in April of five officials connected with the dubious London property deal without waiting for the conclusion of their trials. The Register asked the Holy See Press Office if any of these former officials had received compensation or any form of restitution following their dismissals, but did not receive a reply prior to publication of this article.
The Register also asked the Vatican Secretary of State, Cardinal Pietro Parolin, for his views on criticisms of management and financial practices in the Vatican, and whether he was in favor of establishing some kind of independent personnel directorate to help protect employees’ rights, but he said he did not wish to answer.
What Is Needed?
The creation of such a personnel directorate — a mainstay of most corporations but absent in the Vatican — is often a solution proposed by officials and ex-officials to defend their rights as employees.
In March, the Vatican announced it had created a personnel office, only for the news to be retracted three days later, perhaps pointing to how disruptive and contentious such a department would be to longstanding management practices.
But even if such an office were put in place, not everyone is convinced it would help remove or minimize financial corruption.
“The Curia doesn’t need an adversarial employment tribunal to solve things,” said Matthew O’Brien, a Philadelphia-based Catholic analyst who advocates for financial reform in the Church. “Financial reform is not complicated.” What is needed, O’Brien believes, is a full independent audit by the Vatican’s auditor general (a post that has been filled only temporarily since Milone’s ouster in 2017), and the “internationalization of curial staff” in the Vatican’s financial departments most susceptible to malpractice, “drawn from faithful, experienced, accomplished lay professionals.”
Another possible reform is to remove money-managing from clergy who often have little idea of finance. “Financial management is one area where the involvement of expert, experienced, and independent laymen should be central to the Church’s practice,” O’Brien said, adding that while it is correct the Church is not a business, that argument should not be used to “rationalize an insular clericalist culture that operates without accountability, transparency, or competence.”
Pope Francis recently implemented a reform of one area of concern: how external contracts are awarded. The papal decree, issued June 1, aims to increase “transparency, control and competition” and centralize the contracting process as well as instituting rules to prevent nepotism.
Following the decree, on June 30 the Pope sought to clean up the Fabric of St. Peter, an office responsible for the conservation and maintenance of St. Peter’s basilica.
The June 1 motu proprio, widely welcomed as signaling an end to a key area of corrupt practices that were also central to the Vatileaks scandal, could mark a turning point, according to some observers, but critics say the rules could still be flouted and what is really needed is a change in personnel. They also point out that the new document only applies to the area of finance, and not management practices in general.
Character, Candor and Transparency
Papal biographer George Weigel told the Register that patronage cultures, including clerical patronage cultures such as the one that exists within the Curia, “too often lead to financial and other forms of corruption.” The key to any reform, he said, is not structural change even though that can “build some protections against corruption,” but rather “the character of the people chosen for positions in the Roman Curia.”
Weigel believes “no one should have anything to do with Holy See finance who has not previously demonstrated both capability and probity in dealing with money.”
Russell Shaw, a former spokesman for the U.S. bishops’ conference, said that those responsible for Vatican finances “have to understand that their first responsibility is to God” and “their second responsibility is to the Church — the people of God.” That second responsibility, he said, “absolutely requires candor and transparency on their part.”
“Like many people, I find it deeply disappointing that after promise upon promise of reform in this matter of Vatican finances, we have incident after incident suggesting that something is seriously, fundamentally wrong,” said Shaw. “I fully agree that more institutional reforms are needed. But more than that, I believe, what is most needed is a deep-rooted change of attitude — a conversion, if you will.”
Shaw predicted that, without the transparency that derives from such conversion of attitudes, “the scandals will continue, even with the best of institutional safeguards in place.”
Edward Pentin is the Register’s Rome correspondent.
PAT SAYS
The corruption in the RCC is not only sexual.
No corruption is single faceted.
All corruption us multi faceted.
Where there is sexual corruption there is financial corruption, the abuse of power, and every other corruption you can think of.
Every diocese now has a clique of homosexual priests .
Every religious order now has a clique of homosexual religious.
This corruption of priesthood and religious life is allowed and encouraged by bishops religious superiors and abbots.
In Ireland this situation is most present in dioceses, the Dominicans and the Redemptorists.
We have seen two active homosexual monastic superiors exposed in recent weeks:
1. Dom Richard Purcell Cistercian monk and abbit of Mount Mellary in the diocese of Waterford and Lismore.
Purcell
2. Prior Mark Kirby of Silverstream in Meath diocese.
Kirby
Neither Phonsie Cullinan of Waterford or Tom Deenihan have commented publicly.
PhonsieDennihan
Phonsie installed and blessed Purcell as an abbot.
Silverstream is a diocesan monastery and Deenihan has full power over it.
Public immorality is involved in both cases and both bishops have nothing to say about this public immorality.
Why I wonder?
Phonsie has always been quick enough to lecture the laity on contraception, same sex marriage etc.
Is he not at all concerned that an abbot residing in his jurisdiction is having sex with monks, priests and others?
In fact, Phonsie seems to be Purcell’s friend ‘ visiting the monastery and going to Los Angeles together.
ABBOT GENERAL OF THE CISTERCIANS
Eamon Fitzgerald.
I had emails and a long telephone conversation with the Abbot General.
It was in fact the Abbot General told me personally of Purcell’s homosexual conduct in Roscrea Monastery.
The Abbot General in fact said that the Cistetcians were hoping Roscrea was a one off.
Now we know its was not a one off.
Now we know forgive the pun, that its a HABIT!
We hold that it is IMMORAL for a man to make a VOW of MARRIAGE to a woman and have sex with anybody else.
Should we not equally hold that it is IMMORAL for a bishop, priest or monk to make a VOW of CHASTITY to God and have sex with others?
Why should bishops, priests and monks hold married people to higher standard than they hold themselves to?
The truth is that nowadays the priesthood and religious life is the best place to get away with hypocrisy and double standards.
Join the priesthood or religious life and be on a pedestal, have everything material you need, and have an entree into the world of senseless bonking – and fuck (literally) poverty, chastity and obedience.
“Join the navy and see the world”.
Join the priesthood / religious life and get your hole!
The current situation is not only immoral and hypocritical.
It is the realm of the Father of Lies.
But then did a Pope not say: “The smoke of Satan has entered the Church”.
READER RECOGNISES PEOPLE IN PIC
This photo probably relates to the Colleges Volunteer Corp, a group of students who were involved in stewarding and ceremonial activities for the Patrician Congress in 1961,The head was Brendan Glennon, pictured on the left. Next is Fr Conn Dowling (I am fairly sure). The guy with the sunglasses is Paul Irvine and next is indeed Diarmuid Martin. I am unable to name the others.I was a member of the same Corp and this photo brings back good memories.
Urgent notice’ to Dublin parishes as public Mass cancelled again
‘Urgent notice’ to Dublin parishes as public Mass cancelled again
Chai Brady September 18, 2020 Irish Catholuc
Archbishop Diarmuid Martin
Public Masses, Confirmations and First Communions have been cancelled in Dublin for three weeks after the Government’s new guidelines were announced this evening.
Archbishop Diarmuid Martin sent an “urgent notice” to parishes in the Archdiocese of Dublin this morning (Friday), presupposing the Government’s announcement as he said the outcome “seems likely”.
The restrictions will see churches only open to the public once again for private prayer. For weddings and funerals attendance will be limited to 25 people. However, weddings planned for this weekend can continue under level 2 restrictions, which means up to 50 people may attend, according to Taoiseach Micheál Martin’s speech outside Leinster house this evening.
Archbishop Martin said he felt it was good to send out “preliminary advice based on the published general level 3 advice”. He added he would send out more “definitive guidance” after the Government’s decision was announced. He said: “The norms apply only to the churches and oratories within Co. Dublin. It does not apply to the churches in the Archdiocese of Dublin in Counties Wicklow, Wexford, Kildare and Laois.
Limited
“It is likely therefore that places of worship will remain closed from midnight tonight, except for private prayer, wedding and funerals. Attendance at wedding liturgies and funerals would be limited to 25. Religious services can be transited online with no public presence.
“Effectively this places churches in the position they were before the reopening earlier this summer, or as the situation was in counties Kildare and Laois earlier this month.”
He concluded: “Confirmation and First Communion services will therefore not be possible during this period and will have to be postponed. Permission already granted for Confirmations remain valid for the new date.”
The Government, under advice from NPHET, placed Dublin on level 3 of the Government’s ‘Covid-19 Resilience and National Recovery Plan’, which begins at midnight tonight and will continue for three weeks.
PAT SAYS
This Covid things seems ready to give us all quite a second battering?
The Irish government is correct to imposr these new restrictions.
Of course they will be a big hit to church collections and to business life etc.
But in the end life is more important than money.
SILVERSTREAM FOUNDER RETIRES ON “HEALTH GROUNDS” 😆
Kirby
From “Meath PP”
“Bishop Pat, we diocesan priests have been informed by Deenihan & Co, that the founding prior of Silverstream Prior, Mark Kirby will NOT be back in Silverstream and that the public announcement will state that he has retired “on health grounds”.
We believe that Dennihan & Co are pulling the wool over our eyes.
We have also heard that Kirby is being provided with a diocesan house near Dublin to live in!
How is this a proper outcome for accusations of sexual misconduct and embezzlement?
Furthermore, how can Purcell of Mellary be on the visitation of Silverstream after what we learned about him in the past wee”?
Everyday, my enemies, and the enemies of this blog, come on here with their litany of complaints and accusations.
Their litany includes:
1. The accusation that I am guilty of doing myself what I criticise other bishops, priests and monks for doing.
2. The accusation that I lack the compassion of Christ for wrongdoing bishops, priests and monks.
3. The accusation that I am anti Catholic.
4. The accusation that I hate and am full of vengeance.
I feel absolutely no obligation to deal with or answer the accusations of these ANONYMOUS priests and others.
But hey! I have nothing else I want to blog about today.
1. I have been openly and publicly gay for many years. I came out publicly in October 1999 on the front page of the NEWS OF THE WORLD, a newspaper I wrote for at the time.
NEWS OF THE WORLD 10.10.1999
Six years later I published a book about my sexuality and spiritually.
The vast majority of gay priests are secretly gay and many of them are leading double lives. And that is both psychologically and spiritually unhealthy.
Thankfully for many years now I have been totally open and honest about my sexuality.
My congregation and all those I minister to are totally aware of all that I am.
I do not lead a double life.
I have never been to a gay sauna.
Did I experiment years ago as part of my coming to terms with my sexuality. Yes I did. Do I feel guilty about that? No I don’t.
In fact I did in my 40s what most people do at 16 to 20.
But I was too repressed then and full of Catholic guilt. They had fucked my head up too. And I struggled hard to un-fuck it with the help of a couple of good counsellors and therapists.
Every trapped creature gains its freedom through struggle.
LACKING COMPASSION?
I have great compassion for any human being who is suffering.
And I think there is a massive difference between a priest falling in love or acting out of loneliness and a cynical and conscienceless bishop, Abbot and priest, frequenting gay saunas looking for “fresh meat”.
Many of the priests we hear about on this blog are not seeking intimacy, comfort, love etc. They are prowling around like lustful lions looking to devour bodily bits and orifices, using their positions and priesthood as bait.
They are also forming circles of lust to facilitate gay origies.
And all the time, cynically pretending to be celibate and chaste.
I have every compassion for any man or woman struggling with any human weakness.
But please don’t ask me to feel compassion about lies, cynicism, double standards and cover up.
ANTI CATHOLIC?
I am 100% anti the Roman Catholic institution because it is 100% corrupt in every way.
But I am not anti Catholic.
I am a Catholic. I treasure the Eucharist and the other sacraments.
I like Catholic liturgy and ceremony.
I can find endless inspiration in Catholic spirituality.
I have spent 34 years now as an independent Catholic.
I regard the RCC and many of its clergy and members as anti-Christ in so many ways.
I have thrown away the dirty water but kept the baby.
HATE AND VENGENCE?
Anybody who knows me will tell you I am not a hateful and vengeful person.
But as Christians are we not supposed to “hate” and oppose evil, injustice, corruption, abuse, sin, lies, deceit, materialism, abuse of power, misogyny, prejudice, violence, etc?
I find all these things in lorry loads in the RCC.
I hate all these things
THE ROLE THE BLOG PLAYS
When people accuse me of washing Catholic dirty linen in public, I always reply:
“Well, give me a laundry room WITHIN where I can wash it”.
The RCC has no proper forum for people to debate and discuss all the burning issues.
In fact debate and discussion is forbidden.
So, this blog us one place people can express their views, differences, complaints hurts etc.
And that is why its important and good.
Those who oppose and dislike the blog are those who want to cover up all that is going on.
“Men have shown that they prefer the darkness to the light”.
I will keep the lights on here for as long as I am able and God allows.
A MYSTERY PICTURE
Can anyone identify any of the guys in this old pic?
In 2005 I wrote Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, a book that I took out of print in late 2010 because it desperately needed an update. Essentially, the volume was penned prior to the rise of social media, the explosion of user-generated porn, the advent of smartphone hookup apps, and numerous other advances in digital sexnology. And let us not forget the cultural changes “gay marriage” (and its effect on “gay monogamy”) has wrought in the past few years. Remember, many in the gay community used to deride marriage as an old-fashioned, demeaning, heterosexual ritual. Now, however, gay marriage is a hard-fought-for reality in several states, and with a forward-thinking president who has spoken in support of it on more than one occasion, other states are likely to follow. This has created a dramatic shift in gay men’s attitudes toward marriage and monogamy, leading in turn to quite a lot of individuals rethinking their sexual behavior, wondering if all the “fun” they’ve been having is actually compulsive and destructive rather than enjoyable.
Needless to say, things have changed quite a lot in the eight years since I wrote Cruise Control. In 2005, gay male sex addicts were most likely to be found picking up hustlers on street corners, masturbating in adult bookstores to video and magazine porn, hooking up for quickies in public parks and restrooms, and cruising the steam-room at their local gym for hours at a time. Today gay men search for sex in much safer and significantly less public venues. Hustlers are found on prostitution (and dating) websites; porn of every ilk imaginable is ubiquitous on the Internet; mutual masturbation occurs via webcams; and in-person casual and anonymous hookups are set up using “friend finder” smartphone apps. Public cruising for sex partners is fast becoming a behavioral relic engaged in only by “old school” men (read: over 40) who’ve yet to embrace the technologic tsunami. And the number of old-school gay men is diminishing by the day, as it becomes increasingly clear that if you want to get laid, you’d better get “with it” in terms of digital hookups. Recognizing this, a heavily updated second edition of Cruise Control – already a staple among gay men in recovery – is scheduled for publication later this month in both electronic and print formats. (See: www.gentlepath.com or www.amazon.com.)
Is Sex Addiction a Gay Thing?
Compulsive, problematic sexual behaviors are not solely a gay men’s issue. The diagnoses of sex, love, and porn addiction are equally widespread among straight and bisexual men, and those individuals act out in the same basic ways as gay men. The simple fact is today’s sex addicts, regardless of sexual orientation, locate sex partners via dating and prostitution websites, social media, and smartphone apps. The only real difference is gay men log on to Grindr, Manhunt, and Scruff, while straight guys use Skout, Blendr, and Ashley Madison. Gay and straight porn addicts also act out in similar ways, “losing themselves” in a seemingly endless online array of intensely stimulating graphic imagery – much of it user-generated thanks to the proliferation of webcams and HD cameras. Gay or straight, sex addicts live highly compartmentalized double lives, experiencing a variety of negative life consequences as a result of their compulsive acting out. Simply put, gay and straight sex addicts are much more alike than different.
That said, recognizing sexual addiction in gay men is sometimes tougher than it is with straight men, in part because Western gay culture encourages a wider range of sexual freedoms than does heterosexual culture. And while this is in most ways a positive (gay and proud) reaction to growing up in a shame-based, homophobic society, a counterculture of unrestrained sexual activity also tends to both enable and make it difficult to identify problematic sexual behavior patterns. In simple terms: If you spend all your free time in bars, it’s hard to determine if you are an alcoholic or just someone who likes to drink. Why? Because everyone there is drinking. Similarly, it is difficult to stand out as a sex addict when you live in a sexually permissive community. Most gay men live in such an environment, while most straight men don’t. Thus, it is typically easier for straight male sex addicts to notice when their sexual behavior becomes compulsive, excessive, and destructive. It is important to note that gay male sex addicts are not compulsively sexual because of their sexual orientation. Rather, they are compulsively sexual as a way to self-medicate individual psychological issues – depression, anxiety, attachment disorders, social phobia, low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, etc. These are exactly the same underlying issues presented by straight and bisexual sex addicts, both male and female. Unfortunately for the gay male sex addict, his increasingly destructive patterns of behavior take place against a cultural background of dramatically greater sexual freedom than that experienced by other sex addicts. In some ways, the gay sex addicts are prisoner of their own autonomy, with fewer cultural opportunities for self-examination and less cultural support for behavioral change than the population in general. But this is changing. Many married gay men are no longer willing to put up with a partner who is out having sex with strangers two or three evenings a week. Like many attached, loving spouses of both genders, gay spouses are increasingly expressing dissatisfaction with non-monogamy and their partner engaging in random, casual sex. This is bringing more gay sex addicts than ever into treatment.
Gay Men and Technology
For most gay men, the Internet has helped them learn about themselves, form supportive communities, and develop healthy intimate relationships. It has also played a significant role in the de-stigmatization of homosexuality – especially among younger people. It has likely saved lives. Unfortunately, the Internet has also facilitated sexual acting out for many gay men. As the accessibility, affordability, and most importantly the anonymity of pornography, online sex, and in-the-flesh encounters has increased, so too has the number of gay men struggling with problematic patterns of sexual behavior. For these men, even seemingly benign online activities can present a danger. Consider Joe:
Sometimes I go online just to check email or pay a bill, and without even thinking about it, I’m looking at porn or I’m video chatting with some half-naked guy who lives a thousand miles away. Before I know it, half the night is gone and there I am, still sitting there, zoned out and staring at the screen. It’s like being in a daze. And this doesn’t just happen to me once in a while. If it did, I wouldn’t be so concerned. But I lose myself online for three or four hours a night, nearly every night, and sometimes entire weekends are spent cruising for sex and masturbating to porn. Some days I sit still for so long that my whole body gets cramped – and I still haven’t eaten or done any chores. I just stare at my stupid iPad and let it drag me away into oblivion. A friend of mine used to do heroin, and he described to me one time what it was like, and it’s exactly the same as how I use sex and the Internet. That really scares me.
Drugs and Sex
Writing a blog about gay men and sexual addiction without also mentioning concurrent drug abuse would be a great disservice. The simple fact is sex addicts often struggle with multiple addictions. In one survey of male sex addicts (a mix of gay and straight men) 87 percent reported also abusing an addictive substance or another addictive behavior. For many gay male sex addicts, stimulants like cocaine and methamphetamine are the secondary “drugs of choice.” Users say these drugs allow them to be sexual for hours or even days at a time – without sleeping, eating, or coming down – especially when Viagra, Cialis, or a similar drug is along for the ride. Sadly, safe sex is rarely a priority for such men when disinhibited by drugs. This is especially true for sex addicts who’ve already grown accustomed to marathon sex with multiple partners, greatly increasing their risk for contracting and/or transmitting HIV and other STDs. For some gay men, drug use and sexual acting out are so intertwined that they form a single, fused addiction – if these men are doing one, they are also, without fail, doing the other.
Finding Recovery
There are a lot of gay identified men, no one really knows how many, who utilize the intensity and emotional power of sexual fantasies and behaviors to self-soothe, distract, and emotionally medicate themselves in ways that not only go against their core beliefs and values, but also create emotional, health, relationship, legal, financial, and other consequences. These individuals can find recovery in therapy with gay supportive sex addiction treatment specialists – usually a combination of individual and group sessions – and in openly gay 12-step sexual recovery meetings. Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA) and Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) seem to be the most popular and welcoming 12-step programs for gay men. Oftentimes, an intensive outpatient program such as the one offered by the Sexual Recovery Institute or an inpatient treatment setting can jump-start a sex addict’s recovery. For individuals with fused drug use and sexual acting out, both aspects of the addiction must be treated simultaneously, preferably in an environment where these issues are addressed as the paired, dual concerns they have become.
Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW
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SEX ADDICTION DEFINITION
chronic, obsessive sexual thoughts and fantasies
compulsive relations with multiple partners, including strangers
lying to cover behaviors
preoccupation with having sex, even when it interferes with daily life, productivity, work performance, and so on
inability to stop or control the behaviors
putting oneself or others in danger due to sexual behavior
feeling remorse or guilt after sex
experiencing other negative personal or professional consequences
PAT SAYS
I have ministered to a number of people, mainly men, who suffered from sex addiction.
It created a lot of problems for them – emotional, financial and relationship problems.
I’ve seen it break up a number of marriages.
Some of the people we have spoken about on the blog have suffered from sex addiction.
Including priests.
For priests all sex is a lie – because they are publicly professing chastity and celibacy and having sex in secret.
That means their life is a lie.
Many such priests display nearly all the symptoms of sexual addiction.
In many ways gay saunas like the Boiler House in Dublin will attract gay sex addicts.
The human and Christian ideal is to have sex in the context of human intimacy, affection, love and caring.
People on here say you can find love in a sauna?
Saunas are all about anonymous sex, poppers, silence, little or no expression of verbal communication, dark rooms etc.
I think gay saunas are unhealthy for all but especially for Bishops, priests and monks.
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I wanted to pass on to you the information I have received from a priest Killaloe diocese.
I wish to make a formal complaint against Fr Purcell and ask for a formal investigation to be undertaken and to be informed of the outcome.
+ Pat Buckley
INFORMATION FROM DIOCESAN PRIEST
“Pat, the bishops of Killaloe know a thing or two about Dickie Purse. Remember Willy Walsh? His brother or cousin was a monk in Roscrea.
And that shite Kunty Reilly, now in Cashel, has the dirt on the guy Dickie fucked in Roscrea, his fuck buddy monk who was a priest of Killaloe who tried his vocation at Roscrea for a while.
“Kunty” O Reilly
O Reilly shafted the same Killaloe priest in a very nasty way, booted the poor guy out without any justice. Kunty had the dirt on the guy, used it and was merciless. I know all this because I’m a Killaloe priest but I have to be careful.
Kunty advised the Galway priest who was caught by the police at Salthill. Imagine if Drennan knew that! Kunty working against +Galway. Told him not to shit on his own doorstep.
Small world too cos the Salthill ex priest, Lee, was a regular at the Boiler House and could never keep his big mouth shut. Thats why his classmates in Maynooth called him Galway Bay! He blabbed around about the Killaloe priest being in the Boiler House, same priest who suffered at Kunty Reillys hands and who was fuck buddy of Dickie at Roscrea.
An ex seminarian friend of mine was fucked bareback by Dickie Purse in the Boiler House. The poor guy was lying on his back in a cubicle and Dickie landed in all horny, jumped on him and rode him without a word, yes, no, nothing.
My old friend was stunned. He couldn’t put a name on Dickie at first but knew the face. He had been on retreat in Roscrea. He put two and two together later.
Dickie is one cocky bollox. When he was a theology student in Oxford, there were lots of stories about him, doing the rounds of OSB and SJ bedrooms! By the way, Coffey at Glenstal was a Killaloe priest. He’s salt of the earth, a really kind genuine guy. No double life for him. He must have heard about Dickie. Don’t know how he puts up with him when they meet.
Brendan Coffey
LATER
Your friend Bill Mulvihill could tell you about the Killaloe priest fuck buddy of Dickie. They are friends and I hear Bill is loyal to him.
“Lugs” Monahan
I had a lot of contact with Bishops House in Ennis before Lugs Monahan came there. That’s how I know about the former PP of Kildysart and his travails at Roscrea.
Someone mentioned Gerard Gillen on here a few days ago, who is not dead. Gillen is a big friend of Dickie and Dickie moves in those Dublin musical circles. Gillen was a big friend of Ledwith too. There’s a clique there. xxxxxxx had a close shave with a male student in Maynooth, bur got away without an official complaint. Be careful with him. He’ll bring out the big guns to defend Dickie if you dig too much.”
LATER
“I had to go quiet. Was warned the big guns gunning for you over Dickie Purse. I didn’t think I’d be identified as source of info to you, but was naive. The bastards seem to have to their spies in Killaloe. I warned you about Gilken and the musical crowd. The Knights of Columbanus are very powerful. Friends in the police who won’t obey the law. They’ll monitor the blog and breach gdpr snooping on people posting and their ip addresses to locate them. Be careful. They don’t want Dickie going down.
Go easy on the Killaloe priest who was in Roscrea. He’s fragile enough and now in lay life in Dublin. He had the honesty to acknowledge his double life, not our Dickie though.
There was a shagfest near Melleray a few months ago organised by Dickie and some young Dominicans. I see someone else on your blog is on to them. You need to check the Irish OP, in Rome, teaching now at Sant Anselmo, the OSB place. He’s the boyfriend of the xxxxxx there, but that doesn’t stop him screwing any cute hole within 1000 miles. Total slut. I hear too that Dickie has been known to service two of the Glenstal guys and the odd C of I, very ecumenical our Dickie with his dick”.
The Abbot General of the Cistercian order – Dom Eamon Fitzgerald – has arrived in Ireland and is staying at Mount Mellary.
ABBOT GENERAL
Dom Richard Purcell was away from Mount Mellary for the weekend and was expected to return there yesterday.
The Abbot General and the papal nuncio, Archbishop Okolo, are in receipt of a formal complaint against Dom Purcell and have been asked to investigate.
Every Cistercian monastery has a “Father Immediate”.
“In accordance with the Charter of Charity, Cistercian communities are autonomous but united in a communion implemented by the institutions of the Father Immediate, the Regular Visitation, and the General Chapter. The Father Immediate is the abbot of another monastery, whose responsibilities include a formal visit to the community every two years. The purpose of this “Regular Visitation” is to strengthen and supplement the pastoral action of the local superior, to correct where necessary, and to renew the nuns’ or monks’ spiritual fervor.
The Father Immediate of Mount Melleray is Abbot Andre Barbeau of Val Notre Dame in Quebec, Canada.
It seems to me that an investigation into a complaint against Richard Purcell would in the first place, be conducted by Abbot Barbeau.
OCSO
CONSTITUTIONS OF THE MONK
C. 40 Resignation from Office
For a just cause an abbot may submit his resignation to the General Chapter.
When the General Chapter is not in session, he presents his resignation to the Abbot General who acts as vicar of the Chapter in this matter.
ST 40.A
An abbot is to tender his resignation of his own accord when he reaches 75 years of age.
ST 40.A.
The abbot having been postulated at an age beyond 75 and whose postulation has been confirmed shall spontaneously offer his resignation at the next General Chapter (Decision of the 2014 General Chapter, vote 49.)
ST 40.B When an abbot offers his resignation the Father Immediate is always consulted.
Careful inquiry is made, if the matter demands it, into the views of the community. Neighbouring superiors also are to be consulted, if appropriate.
ST 40.B.
If because of an infirmity or other reason (such as imprisonment, banishment or exile – cf. Can 412 CIC) it is impossible either physically or psychologically for an abbot to exercise his pastoral function, it is for the Father Immediate, having consulted experts and obtained the consent of the conventual chapter, to investigate and verify the matter. If the impossibility is evident he immediately informs the Abbot General, who with the consent of his council, can remove the abbot from office.
PREVIOUS COMPLAINT AGAINST RICHARD PURCELL.
I have learned from a totally reliable source that the Cistercians have on file a previous sexally related complaint from his time in Roscrea monastery.
Given this, it is rather shocking that he went on to become an abbot!
Considering all of this I believe that Richard Purcell needs to do the honourable thing and resign as abbot of Mount Melleray to avoid further scandal.
COMMENT PLACED ON RICHARD PURCELL’S FACEBOOK PAGE TODAY.
Their influence is centered around the Office in Drumcondra, presided over by Fr xxx xxxxxxxxxx who was removed from xxxxx under a cloud. He is assisted by Coddle’s assistant xxxxxx who makes Dame Edna look macho,.
He has successfully manipulated birds-of-a-feather into several key appointments and they seem to be untouchable (Not in the physical sense of course.)
There have been instances of strange goings on'( to borrow Coddle’s phrase re Maynooth).
Drinkypoos and soirees in the past have been raucous and rather tactile affairs leading to “overnighting”; where beds were shared in some instances by three of the holy anointed.
Bottoms were sore in the morning in some cases.
Coddle is not unaware of these goings-on’s but chooses to ignore it, some say because of past indiscretions which might be brought to light.
Italian indiscretions have been alluded to on this blog in the past but these are just the tip of the iceberg.
Pat, you are rattling some dangerous cages and are in danger of being bitten.
You are dealing with nasty people. Tread cautiously.
Bottoms up”!
PAT SAYS
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THE RESSURRECTION OF FATHER MC CAMLEY
As Jesus is the God of second chances people like Fr McCamley and fully entitled to a second chance.
But in our Catholic tradition the expression of one’s sorrow precedes forgiveness.
As far as I know Fr McCamley has not apologised to the young man he flashed at or his family?
Nor has he apologised for letting down the people of Keady?
Nor has Amy apologised on his behalf.
Amy’s attitude was sneak him out and sneak him back in and to hell with those he hurt or scandalised.
This is rampant clericalism.
Its a pity these clerics are not as quick at saying sorry as they are at resurrecting themselves.
I thought that I was unshockable when it came to the sex lives of Irish priests and religious.
But this week I have received so much new information about the homosexual goings on in presbyteries, religious houses and monasteries that I am actually in a state of shock.
I had always hoped and thought that there was a remnant of goodness in these places and that there were still a number of “good” and healthy apples in the barrel.
But now I realise that the barrell itself is truly rotten and full of rotten apples to the point where any good apple must be barely surviving.
Places like monasteries, where people like me were drawn to for spirituality and guidance, are very often nowadays little better than homosexual whore houses.
People that I once regarded as spiritual light houses are now frequenting gay saunas and humping fellow monks and retreatants.
And I am discovering that there is an Irish homo web involving bishops priests, monks, politicians, the police and the various professions.
This web protects people like Paul Prior.
And it goes from the top to the bottom of the Irish church in terms of involvement, knowledge, facilitating and covering up.
These people are engaging in sex in saunas and in various places with each other.
And they are now threatening me as you saw on the blog last night.
Why is someone threatening me over Dom Dick Purcell the Abbot of Mount Mellary?
I have involved the N. Ireland police and they have begun an investigation.
If anything happens to me I want people to know that this church web was behind it.
Here is a message I received from a priest
“I had to go quiet. Was warned the big guns gunning for you over xxxxx xxxxxx I didn’t think I’d be identified as source of info to you, but was naive. The bastards seem to have to their spies in Killaloe. I warned you about xxxxxx xxxxxxx and the musical crowd. The Knights of Columbanus are very powerful. Friends in the police who won’t obey the law. They’ll monitor the blog and breach gdpr snooping on people posting and their ip addresses to locate them. Be careful. They don’t want xxxxxx xxxxxx going down. Go easy on the Killaloe priest who was in Roscrea. He’s fragile enough and now in lay life in Dublin. He had the honesty to acknowledge his double life, not our xxxxx xxxxxx though. There was a shagfest near Melleray a few months ago organised by Xxxxxx xxxxxx and some young Dominicans. I see someone else on your blog is on to them. You need to check the Irish OP, guy teaching , He’s the boyfriend of the Rector there, but that doesn’t stop him screwing any cute guy within 1000 miles. Total slut. I hear too that Xxxxxx xxxxxxx has been known to “service” two of the Glenstal guys and the odd C of I, very ecumenical our xxxxxx xxxxxx with his member”</p>
